Parents, Do You Really Understand Us?

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What about the hard work of the losers? Who are the losers? Losers are those who score less than the top stander(s). At least, parents and our educational rituals believe in the practice that their kids should top the class, school and the faculty to prevent themselves from not being the losers. So you don’t count the hard work of your losers who do not go shoulder to shoulder with the topper even if they tried their best and stood below the topper but not the least?

The host announces the winners. There is applause all in the hall. 

One by one, they run with happiness and smiling to bag their awards. The cameras go flashing, and the environment behaves like there are only the winners in this world!

Now the guest comes forward and congratulates the winners and also unwittingly address some words for losers. They say the ones who have not won are the real winners, but they have no sense of the natural feeling of losing in front of the so-called celebrating winners. 

It is so easy for them to flatten the degraded performers that they are also the winners. But, once only once please, I beg! Put your foot in the loser’s shoe too. 

“Losers are not losers but the winners.” This statement I always say with pride. 

Even a god cannot have all skills and qualities. Then? After all, we are just humans. 

Parents, I am telling the parents, please lend me your ears just for some second, please! It is an old cliche to say that parents have invested their time and money in their children. They want to make their children the best ones in the world. 

I bet all parents think the same! But at the end of the day, the truth comes to be very contrasting: only one person can be that child among all who the above host calls the ‘Hero’to, to the public attention. And the rest? Do these people have the right to degrade and disgrace every child’s effort to be the best? Why do you people make us compete in the meaningless ‘race of mouse’ and tag us winners and losers? Do you people focus on making us successful in life rather than pushing and pressuring us to stand at the top with distinction and beating our colleagues? 

Please, I beg! Do not kill the spirit inside the child.

“A child is just a child” this is what you guys think. Then how can that child win the entire contests, all the races, and bring the awards home?

A child cannot do everything you impose upon them to do for your happiness. You cannot be a winner in all things. A child cannot be perfect in every subject. 

Don’t scream and yell at your child just because s/he does not win. Do not give stupid examples of the winners that they worked even harder than you. Rubish the foolish thought that losers are losers because they did not study well, they don’t want to keep up and stuffs. Please, do not kill a child’s jell and spirit with these things. Do not nag that your child speaks to you louder. 

Every child has a talent. None of the children is born talentless. Just the parents cannot discover them, and the talent sinks and die. Every child is not perfect, nor are they all equally intelligent, but they can do something you have never thought and imagined. 

A child’s brain is like infinite space, but parents are stopping them from thinking widely. I beg! Please at least once only, just once, please, travel in the mind of a child. 

Parents compare you with different other children and say, “Look at that child, what s/he has done.” 

But parents can also compare themselves against the other parents and be like them if they think it is easy to be compared and stand the so-called winning position. 

I do not understand why parents tend to fail to realize the handwork their children are doing. I bet! They can never realize! Why should they know and understand us while they are already elders, seniors, and are our PARENTS? Isn’t this dumb thinking?

I do not say that our parents do not love us and care for us, but children want them to be understood along with love and care. 

Stop having unwanted control in your child’s life; let them be the ones they should be. Stop compressing a child’s spirit and let them fly in the open sky. Let them feel, realize and learn what the world is at their own disposal. Do not educate your child to achieve success by only passing all exams but educate them to identify the inherent talents that make them capable and thriving in the things and areas your child should be. Do not be foolish to compete your child with others. If you are doing so, you are killing the spirit of your child. Never scold you as a child just because they have lost any competition but realize their hard work. 

Everybody cannot be the stereotyped winner, but everyone is not a loser. Losers are the ones who do not care about anything and do not work hard. Those are not the losers but have been wrongly tagged as losers by comparison despite their hard work. 

The losers receive some words just from your mouth, but they also deserved to accept some terms of motivation from your heart. Try it, and you’ll find them the winners soon. Scolding your child because they failed in a subject does not help them to thrive. Have you ever bothered to look at how well they performed in other subjects? Their weakness can be their strength if you let them do it by themselves. Every child is a winner. The world is failing to realize the truth that a child can never understand the reality of life if you keep them in the cage. If you release them from the box, they will realize the truth of life and the world. 

I strongly do believe that in many cases, the unsuccessful ones are unsuccessful because their parents have already killed their spirit and will. Even if a child is barking like a dog at parents and seniors, I know none of the parents will take it from the heart. I know parents do not have that sort of mind which can understand these things. 

Writer’s note: A student of grade 9 writes this essay to bring change and open the eyes of all parents, but it can also just be a piece of paper that might remain in a corner side and might value nothing more than dusty rubbish. 

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Sunita Khadka
Sunita Khadka
3 years ago

Yes Prithvi, sometimes parents fail to realize that what they have done in their childhood.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Sunita Khadka

Thank you hope so other parents will understand this.

Shreedhar Acharya
3 years ago

Good writing! Keep it on!

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago

Thank you so much for your motivation

Sushma Thapa
3 years ago

Very Good Writing prithivi !Parents Remember there Childhood one more time.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Sushma Thapa

Thank you so much for your valuable comment and also thank you four sharing your felling aswell.

Sanskriti Phuyal
3 years ago

Amazing writing Vai!

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago

Thank you short but motivating thanks from my heart once again.

Deep sumdar
3 years ago

Very intresting writing i literally rememberd my childhood.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Deep sumdar

Thank you really refective

Simrika
Simrika
3 years ago

“Everybody cannot be the stereotyped winner, but everyone is not a loser” rightly stated!
Such a wonderful piece of writing… Keep it up!!

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Simrika

Thank you for depply understanding my writing wish everyone had this thought.

Saurav
Saurav
3 years ago

Beautifully comprehended and delivered!

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Saurav

Thank you for your motivating comment.

Bindu
Bindu
3 years ago

“Always put yourself in others’ shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too”
Same implies to children too!
High time we realize it.
Well written Prithvi!
Keep it up!

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Bindu

Tank you for you constructive feedback and inspiring comment.really gratefull for your comment.

Nisha thapa
Nisha thapa
3 years ago

Good bhai keep it up impressive essay.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Nisha thapa

Thank you so much.I got to know it was impressive thank you.

Nima Gurung
Nima Gurung
3 years ago

Eyes opener essay. Thank Pritbivi 😊

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Nima Gurung

Thank you so much for your motivation

Sahil Ghimire
Sahil Ghimire
3 years ago

Oh wow! I cannot believe Prithivi wrote this while only studying grade 9😲🤩 this is so good that I would recommend my friends and other family members too to take there time and read this!! Really appreciable 👏🏻👏🏻

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Sahil Ghimire

Thank you so much you read my article to the full list and thank you so much for recommending this to others.Your comment helped me realìze my capability.

Ambika Dhakal
Ambika Dhakal
3 years ago

Wow Prithvi 👏👏👍Proud with you 😇

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Ambika Dhakal

Thank you for your inspiring comment glad to know you are pround .thank you

Erika Nepal
Erika Nepal
3 years ago

Wow 👏👏

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Erika Nepal

Thank you but would be even more aprreciable if there would be constructive feedback

आर्डी भट्ट
आर्डी भट्ट
3 years ago

क्या बात बाबु

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago

thank you so much sir for your motivational words

Prithvi
3 years ago

Very creative little boy keep going.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Prithvi

Thank u well appreciated

Ashiah
Ashiah
3 years ago

People tends to celebrate just the outcomes been made but doesnot stress a bit to discern how it has been achieved. If only they had focused more to the efforts used rather than the outcomes; the way of life would have been close to perfect.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Ashiah

Thank you one of the most constructive and helpfull comment ever recieved ut made my day.

Samyam Dhakal
Samyam Dhakal
3 years ago

One of the best articles i have read in shining pens!

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Samyam Dhakal

Thank you for rating my article the best hoping for your support

Abhinav Khatri
Abhinav Khatri
3 years ago

Good work!!!

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Abhinav Khatri

Thank your for your short but motivating feedback

Ujjwla Khannal
Ujjwla Khannal
3 years ago

The feeling od tenGers is well deliverd

prithvi
prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Ujjwla Khannal

thank you brother your comment was well delivered

Usha khadka
Usha khadka
3 years ago

Good job keep going

prithvi
prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Usha khadka

short but sweet thank you

Sunil
3 years ago

Amazing article loved it.

Last edited 3 years ago by Sunil
prithvi
prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Sunil

short but reflective

Rita
Rita
3 years ago

Really refective

prithvi
prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Rita

perfect comment i must say

Homraj
Homraj
3 years ago

Different Approach to judge
Winner is not the one who tops the exam
those all are winners who at least appears there to be as a competent

prithvi
prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Homraj

thank you for understanding the article so deeply

Hira
Hira
3 years ago

Very reflective and well delivered babu

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Hira

Thank you

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Hira

thank you so much very worthworthy

Ganesh
Ganesh
3 years ago

Very well reflected

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Ganesh

thank you very motivating

Tunisha
Tunisha
3 years ago

Well expressed

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Tunisha

thank you for your constructive feedback.

Bikash
Bikash
3 years ago

Very well presented

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Bikash

thank you very much short but sweet

Purnima Thapa
Purnima Thapa
3 years ago

Amazing articlr

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Purnima Thapa

thank you for short feedback

Rupa
Rupa
3 years ago

Well written prithvi.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Rupa

thank you sister

Govinda adhikari
Govinda adhikari
3 years ago

well written about children psychological prospective.keep it up prithvi.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago

Thank you so much

Janardan pokharel
Janardan pokharel
3 years ago

Excellent article Prithivi, keep it up

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago

thank you sir for your motivational words

Aatesha
Aatesha
3 years ago

Wonderful

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Aatesha

very short but blessfull

aaisha
aaisha
3 years ago

well delivered

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  aaisha

well appreciated and your comment is worlworthy too.

kayash
kayash
3 years ago

best article ever read

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  kayash

thank you for your supreme level inspiration

kayash
kayash
3 years ago

best article with overpowered deliverance

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  kayash

Thank you so much

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  kayash

thank you for your motivation

niswarth
niswarth
3 years ago

aprreciable and fabulous

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  niswarth

thank you very glad

aarnav
aarnav
3 years ago

perfect i must say

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  aarnav

Thank you your comment is well apreciated

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  aarnav

thank you for your blessfull comment

aarambha
aarambha
3 years ago

the essay is written in such a flow which can flow peoples emotions

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  aarambha

thank you so much for your support

gaura
gaura
3 years ago

nice one almost cried

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  gaura

I dint know it was so heart touching

angel
angel
3 years ago

overpowered article

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  angel

thank you for your shprt feedback but a motivative one.

angel
angel
3 years ago

overpowered article one of the best

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  angel

thank you for taking my article at a supreme level

Anish
Anish
3 years ago

nice article my brother keep going

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Anish

thank you for your support and hoping for the same in comming days

riya
riya
3 years ago

nice article prithvi loved it

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  riya

thank you so much i am here because of your support

Samyog Acharya
Samyog Acharya
3 years ago

Wow ! You touched my heart.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Samyog Acharya

thank you i was happy that it touched your heart.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago

very blessing

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Prithvi

thank you

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago

awesome i must say

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Prithvi

thank you

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago

awesome very inspiring

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  Prithvi

thank you

dev
dev
3 years ago

very inspiring and hearttouching.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  dev

thank you

jyoti
jyoti
3 years ago

thank you opening many eyes.

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  jyoti

thank you for your motivation which cannot be counted in number.

rachit
rachit
3 years ago

very awesome

Prithvi
Prithvi
3 years ago
Reply to  rachit

thank you for your short motivation which means alot